I have been thinking a lot about friendship this week. Since college I have moved several times, leaving friends behind each time. These people are very important to me, yet as time passes and the miles apart seem to grow, it gets harder and harder to maintain close relationships. I tend to put a lot of energy into my local friends, as they are the ones I can see face to face on a regular basis. But lately, I have found myself struggling to find a balance. The balance between old and new, giving and receiving, supporting and receiving support… I feel as if I have been letting people down lately; I also feel let down by others. This leaves me feeling stranded, unsure of how to mend these relationships.
How do you nurture your friendships? Old friends, new friends, acquaintances and family: where do they fit into your life? How do you let your friends know you value their friendship? How much do you share of yourself and your time? Do you expect reciprocity in actions or concern?
Here’s what Wikipedia has to say on the matter:
Friendship is “…a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, and affection and respect along with a degree of rendering service to friends in times of need or crisis. Friends will welcome each other’s company and exhibit loyalty towards each other, often to the point of altruism. Their tastes will usually be similar and may converge, and they will share enjoyable activities. They will also engage in mutually helping behavior, such as exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship.”
We went to our local cineplex’s $5 movie night last night to see The Women. If friendship was on my mind before, it is at the forefront after seeing this movie!
This is my latest neckwarmer design. It is based on the centipede stitch in the Harmony Guide’s Knit and Purl book. The alternating columns of knit and garter stitch give it structure and symmetry, two things that really appeal to my sensibilities, especially in a time of uncertainty.
Pattern: Centipede Stitch Neckwarmer
Yarn: Malabrigo Worsted merino, mystery color, about 3/4 a skein
Needles: US six 6 straight or circular
Notes: This measures about 25 inches long and 7 inches wide. I created two sets of button holes, the first is 1.5″ from the edge, the second is 7″ from the edge. They are all 3 stitches wide each on alternating knit columns. This way the neckwarmer can be worn snugly around the neck or more loosely.